----- Original Message -----So I'm thinking of making a mature game in the near future and I just want to know how Making Love and Hentai scenes are different. Can one still show private parts and keeping in the Making Love section, or would it be considered a Hentai Scene?-- Interested in Otome
Whether or Not you show genitalia in a sex scene has Nothing to do with whether it's a Love scene or a Sex scene. Showing or Not showing genitalia is merely the difference between a PORN (R18) scene, and a SENSUAL (R16) scene.
Love scenes and Sex scenes are divided by something else entirely.
Love scenes and Sex scenes are divided by something else entirely.
The Love scene vs the Sex scene.
The difference between a Porn/Hentai scene and a Love scene is Not CONTENT; it's not What the participants are Doing. It's WHY they are having sex. It's the MOTIVE.
However, before we get into that...
Don’t confuse Romance with Love. They are two completely different things!
However, before we get into that...
Don’t confuse Romance with Love. They are two completely different things!
Love vs. Romance
There IS a difference!
There IS a difference!
- Romance – a manipulation technique designed to make someone receptive to Sex. The source of Romance is LUST.
- Love – when someone’s happiness means more than your own. The source of Love is CARING.
To many people, Romance means ‘showing love’. That’s not true.
You show love by Protecting the ones you care for with the intent to
ensure their lasting happiness. That doesn’t necessarily mean that
you’re nice to them.
So, how do you create a LOVE scene
-- as opposed to a SEX scene?
If you're doing it right, the ONLY difference between a LOVE scene and a SEX scene is the MOTIVE -- WHY that scene is happening.
- Lust’s motive is ORGASM.
- Love’s motive is CARING.
"How do you SHOW Love?"
It’s easier than you think, because you probably already do it regularly without realizing it.
Think in terms of your Pet...
-- When you want to show how much you care, you stroke them, cuddle them, and play with them. You also feed them, clean up their poop, and make sure they have vet check-ups. You do all of these things to keep them happy and healthy. You do these things to keep them from suffering in any way.
You do the SAME THING with people you love whether they are your parents, your friends, or your children – you hug them, play with them, joke around with them, make sure they’ve eaten, make sure their colds are taken care of, you make sure they are not suffering in any way –- physically or emotionally. You also bitch them out when they’ve done something that could harm them or result in misery.
The difference between these people and a Lover, is that when you are showing that you care for a lover, you use sex to bring them the greatest physical pleasure you can.
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Think in terms of your Pet...
-- When you want to show how much you care, you stroke them, cuddle them, and play with them. You also feed them, clean up their poop, and make sure they have vet check-ups. You do all of these things to keep them happy and healthy. You do these things to keep them from suffering in any way.
You do the SAME THING with people you love whether they are your parents, your friends, or your children – you hug them, play with them, joke around with them, make sure they’ve eaten, make sure their colds are taken care of, you make sure they are not suffering in any way –- physically or emotionally. You also bitch them out when they’ve done something that could harm them or result in misery.
The difference between these people and a Lover, is that when you are showing that you care for a lover, you use sex to bring them the greatest physical pleasure you can.
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- Sex is just another form of PETTING.
LUST is a whole other bowl of kimchee.
LUST is a physical urge, like eating when you’re hungry, seeking warmth in the cold, or needing to pee. It is an urge that seeks relief just like all your other physical urges.
If the urgency is great enough, LUST will attempt every dirty trick in the book to get their hands on their object of choice to get some relief. Think: Physical ADDICTION, and all the crazy, scary obsessive acts that go with fulfilling one. If their particular object (of addiction) gives them exceptional pleasure, whether it be a dildo, a rubber doll, a super soft sock, or a person, they’ll make sure that the toy is cared for, and in some cases, jealously guarded – so that the toy will still be there (and receptive) when they want to use it again.
The key word here is USE.
If the urgency is great enough, LUST will attempt every dirty trick in the book to get their hands on their object of choice to get some relief. Think: Physical ADDICTION, and all the crazy, scary obsessive acts that go with fulfilling one. If their particular object (of addiction) gives them exceptional pleasure, whether it be a dildo, a rubber doll, a super soft sock, or a person, they’ll make sure that the toy is cared for, and in some cases, jealously guarded – so that the toy will still be there (and receptive) when they want to use it again.
The key word here is USE.
- Lust USES others for selfish physical gratification.
- Love doesn’t use, it GIVES.
Love GIVES Affection to make the one loved happy.
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If something should happen to cause hurt to the one loved, the one who
cares is devastated by their FAILURE stop suffering from happening.
Lust TAKES affection to make themselves happy.
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Toys have PHYSICAL value, not Emotional value. If their toy should
break, or Refuse to be used, they will be FRUSTRATED and ANGRY, but they
won’t think they failed. They’ll think the TOY
Failed -- and just go out and get another toy. If their addiction is
strong enough, they may even attempt to Destroy the toy so no one else
will ever want to use it -- especially if that toy is a Person. "If I
can't use them, I'll make sure no one else can either!"
What's the real difference between a Love scene and a Lust scene?
What's the real difference between a Love scene and a Lust scene?
Very simply:
- Lust Takes pleasure.
- Love Gives it.
Jealousy is NOT a sign of LOVE!
Jealousy a sign of possession, of ownership; of FEAR that their object will be taken from them and no longer theirs to USE; of Obsession and ADDICTION.
When the Beloved's happiness comes SECOND to the lover's happiness, "If you love me, you'd do this to make me happy..." What they are expressing is OWNERSHIP.
When one is in Love, and their lover sleeps with someone else, they do not feel jealousy, they feel FAILURE, and point the blame squarely on themselves.
Jealousy is a point-blank sign of someone concerned with their own happiness, not their Beloved's.
"I won't let you make me unhappy!"
When the Beloved's happiness comes SECOND to the lover's happiness, "If you love me, you'd do this to make me happy..." What they are expressing is OWNERSHIP.
When one is in Love, and their lover sleeps with someone else, they do not feel jealousy, they feel FAILURE, and point the blame squarely on themselves.
“I wasn’t enough to make my beloved happy in bed. What did I do wrong?”
If their feelings are strong enough, they may ALLOW their lover to keep their other lover --and give up on them entirely-- simply because it's what makes their beloved happy.
When someone is merely in LUST, they will ISOLATE the object of their desires --from friends, co-workers, family, and even pets. They will use every trick they know, such as; Stalking and Spying, to keep rivals (read: THIEVES) from taking what they have claimed as theirs, even if it's merely their attention.
Should the object of their Lust sleep with someone else, they will attack the one attempting to steal their possession.
"How dare you touch what is MINE?!"
Then they will attack their 'supposedly' Beloved.
"How dare you let someone else have you?! You belong to ME!"
Punishment --with the intent to cause Emotional damage-- swiftly follows, such as; breaking something important to their Lust object, a brutal and bloody beating, or flat-out rape.
If their Lust Object doesn't leave at that point, the jealous owner will then enforce stricter forms of ISOLATION on their Lust Object; up to and including Imprisonment, to ensure that neither Escape nor Theft will happen again.
-----Original Message-----
"Wow, I always thought Romance was about Love...?"
-- Prefers Romance
EVERYONE thinks Romance is about love -- because we really, really WANT it to be.
Romance tells us that the Other Person gives up everything for Us, when in fact, the opposite is true. Real Love makes us give up everything for THEM.
When you think about it, Love is a very scary emotion. It makes us give up everything we want, everything we are -- for someone else. If they are not worthy of such a sacrifice, it doesn't matter because we LOVE them and want them to be happy at any cost, even if that cost is ourselves.
Romance tells us that the Other Person gives up everything for Us, when in fact, the opposite is true. Real Love makes us give up everything for THEM.
When you think about it, Love is a very scary emotion. It makes us give up everything we want, everything we are -- for someone else. If they are not worthy of such a sacrifice, it doesn't matter because we LOVE them and want them to be happy at any cost, even if that cost is ourselves.
Real Love
comes in many different shapes and colors.
comes in many different shapes and colors.
A
love that looks destructive from the outside, such as Bondage and
Domination, could in fact be perfectly supportive, and exactly what both
lovers need from each other. A good movie that illustrates this
perfectly is "Secretary".
On the other hand, what an outsider may think is positive and supportive might in fact not be love at all. Case in point, stalking was once thought of as being an expression of love. Angry possessiveness can look an awful lot like love when in fact it is a terror tactic designed to isolate the one supposedly beloved.
When a lover asks their beloved to choose between them and anything else, a friend, a pet, or even a hobby, they not interested in their significant other's happiness. They are ensuring that their toy has no outside distractions, and is available for their convenience. A good movie that illustrates this is "Sleeping with the Enemy".
A lover that yells at their beloved for their destructive habits, such as; over-spending, drugs, booze, gambling...is more likely to be showing real love, than a lover that sweetly begs their beloved to drop their plans for going out with their friends for a romantic dinner date with them.
How do you tell the difference?
Measure each action by this question:
On the other hand, what an outsider may think is positive and supportive might in fact not be love at all. Case in point, stalking was once thought of as being an expression of love. Angry possessiveness can look an awful lot like love when in fact it is a terror tactic designed to isolate the one supposedly beloved.
When a lover asks their beloved to choose between them and anything else, a friend, a pet, or even a hobby, they not interested in their significant other's happiness. They are ensuring that their toy has no outside distractions, and is available for their convenience. A good movie that illustrates this is "Sleeping with the Enemy".
A lover that yells at their beloved for their destructive habits, such as; over-spending, drugs, booze, gambling...is more likely to be showing real love, than a lover that sweetly begs their beloved to drop their plans for going out with their friends for a romantic dinner date with them.
How do you tell the difference?
Measure each action by this question:
"WHO benefits from the results, really?"
The Lover, or the one supposedly Beloved?
The Lover, or the one supposedly Beloved?
Enjoy!
